Discover Your Wedding Style

The best way to truly nail your wedding style is to see it all in color and detail as you plan it. But how do I do that you ask? Storyboard it! You have spent months scanning magazines and the web, pulling out pictures and cutting and pasting to your bio, right? And where are they? Stuffed in a binder or scattered in a bunch of computer files? Now is the time to get them out and play with them.

Here is the plan. Make a collage like you did in school. In reality it is called a storyboard and is used by event planners, interior decorators and fashion designers world wide to gather and express their thoughts. I want you do it for your wedding.

Grab a poster board of a reasonable size (you need enough room to hold all your pictures and things but it should be small enough that you can take it with you on appointments.) Start by laying out photos of anything you have already bought: your gown, the reception location, and the bridesmaids dresses-whatever. Now before you glue these down take a look at them and see if they all go together, if not you need to decide if the differences are something you can work with or if you are willing to forfeit the money you have spent. (It’s a tough call and is a big reason why you should start this project early on in the planning) Once you have the basics glued down, step back and take an objective look at what you have, see if a theme is developing. Is there a common design or style thread emerging? Try to put it into words. (No you can’t just use colors. That comes later. See previous post!) Pick five to six really descriptive words that can be used as a touchstone for the rest of your planning. Write them boldly on you board. Got that? Great let’s move on.

Dump the contents of you binder and print out the images you have saved to your computer and start going through them. With each image hold it up to the board, does it fit? Is it of a similar style? You may love starfish or floral tablecloths but do they go with the urban loft you have rented for the reception? Seeing it in living color helps clear the vision. Group the things that work together on your board. As you purchase things for your wedding, add an image or fabric swatch to the board. It doesn’t matter what it is as long as it represents its style.

Now you can head out to the local home improvement store and grab paint chips to represent your color palette. The reason I don’t want you to get hung up on color early on is because it will limit you. Suppose you find a bouquet you love in terms of style and shape and the flowers used but it isn’t in your colors, you will most likely pass it by. If on the other hand you can look at it objectively by holding it up to the board you can always make a note that you love this bouquet but in a different color. Remember when something goes on the board, you are looking at style, colors can always be changed.

At this point you have done enough work on you storyboard that it can start working for you. When you go on appointments to vendors such as florist or cake designers, take the board with you. Rather than having to try to explain your vision to the vendor and hope they get it you can just show them. How easy is that. It also helps make a decision when you are trying to decide between two different items. Hold them up to the board and see which fits better.

I hope this has helped you just a little. And as always, I am here to answer any questions you may have. Just leave me a comment.

Color Does Not Equal Style

Did you get that?

I helped design and create a booth at Sunday’s bridal show for the Pink Book on Wedding Style. I put together seven completely different concepts complete with tabletop design and storyboard. The goal was two-fold; to teach brides about storyboarding their wedding and to find out what the favorite style of the brides in attendance was.

In six hours of talking to brides I cannot tell you how many think that color equals style. I would ask a bride what her wedding style was and the answer would be “ Chocolate brown and blue” or “Pink.” Say what? I didn’t think I had asked them about their colors. The ones that said pink where the most fun to toy with, I had two displays where the dominant color was pink. When I pointed that out you could almost see their heads spin. As I went on to explain that any of the seven concepts could be done in pink they kind of started to get it.

The reason I bring this up is that at some point you are going to have to communicate your wedding style to your vendors in order to get what you envision. If you can’t show your florist or cake designer what is in your head better than just stating the colors you are going to be disappointed.

I’ve got some tricks and tools to help you get a grip on your wedding style coming up. But for today, I just want you to start thinking differently about it.


Ladies, Listen Up

It’s that time of year. Weddings the Bridal Show is coming to the Nashville Convention Center. Not only is this the largest bridal show in the Mid-South it is also one of the top ten shows in the country!! Go Renee!
I have been a vendor at this show since it started, but this year I am working in conjunction with the producer on a bright shiny new concept. For years I designed wedding cakes and the first question I would ask a bride was ” Tell me about your wedding.” Simple as that may sound, most brides struggle to put thier vision into words that mean the same thing to everyone that hears them. So we (Renee the show producer and me the Wedding Diva) put our heads together to give you some tools you can use. I’m not going to tell you any more!! You will just have to come to the show on Sunday and meet me, the Wedding Diva at the Pink Book booth.
Besides that six of the region’s hottest bridal salons are participating in the Runway Show. The lovely ladies from Faccio’s, The White Room, Glitz, Cherished Memories, Brides Boutique, Jacqueline Bridal and Formal and Bridals of Regis Park are bringing their most fabulous gowns to strut for the crowd. And I know the models will look gorgeous- Wedding Dish’s very own Angel White is doing the hair. Can’t wait.
And talk about freebies. All the magazines will be the handing out the newest edition, the bakeries will have samples for you to try and many of the vendors offer show discounts. And the biggest freebie of all—the first 500 brides will receive a copy of the best local wedding planner around–The Pink Book. It is jam packed with great info, local resources and it is the perfect size to toss in your purse. You have got to get one! There are also prize drawing all day.
I am looking forward to seeing all of you on Sunday. If you are any where in the midsouth it is worth the time for all the wonderful ideas you can pick-up. See you at the show!

Ridiculousness

There is a term in the television industry,” Jumping the shark”. It is used when a show has made that turn so to speak from the sublime to the ridiculous. Even though it is still in production you should count it among the walking dead.

I am afraid that the wedding industry may have jumped the shark.

I ran across a write up of a Colorado wedding in one of my trade journals this week that was so over the top as to be ridiculous. I won’t mention the magazine or who’s wedding it was because obviously these people have really deep pockets and I’m sure much better lawyers than I do.

A gazebo was brought in as the focal point of the ceremony. Ok so far. A loading dock had to be built for the 40-ton crane needed to lift the gazebo in place. That’s some gazebo. I’m still kind of with you at this point but here is where they lose me. In order to take advantage of the new focal point, a sub floor six feet off the ground had to be built for the dining area under the tent. In order to install the floor in this temporary tent they had to uproot ten 30-foot tall canopy trees. Say what? The clients believed “ trees will grow again but this wedding is only once in a lifetime”.

I am not exactly a dedicated environmentalist but even I think that’s ridiculous. Where is the Sierra Club when you need them?

A marriage is once in a lifetime thing, but the wedding is really only a party to celebrate this life event. No matter how fabulous the wedding it is still only a one-time piece of stagecraft. Is this couple any more married than the young kids at the courthouse? No, but they do have one hell of a mess to clean up in the backyard what with the 10 gaping holes and all.

No trees were harmed in the writing of this column.

Wedding Day Hair

A few posts back I was commenting on a bride that wore her hair down for her wedding and by 9:00 had resorted to a plain rubber band ponytail to get it off her neck. Not a great look with a wedding gown. Well today I was telling this story to my wonderful hair stylist Angel (who also does wedding hair BTW). After a few laughs at the disheveled brides expense, Angel said she should have had her stylist plan something for after the ceremony. Just like you have the gown bustled you can plan a way to put your hair up if it gets to hot dancing the night away. Pack a pretty clip or two and have your stylist show you what you need to do to get that stuff out of your way if need be.There is so much beautiful hair jewlery on the market now that no one should have to resort to a rubber band on their wedding day. Why decide between an updo or down? Just plan to have it both ways.

As another note, Angel is going to join me here at Wedding Dish to keep us all up to date on the latest hair and makeup trends. I know she is really hot on the new semi-permanant false eyelashes right now. I’ll keep you posted.

Ivonne de la Vega

I got a press release from one of my favorite designers, Ivonne de la Vega. Her new social occassion collection is out. She included a tease. one look and you know why I love her work so. Her bridal collection is just as beautiful. What I love about Ivonne is that she designs for real people, not just 6′ tall models. Check out her stunning collection if you get a chance.

For additional information on Ivonne de la Vega, to view photos of the complete Collection or to schedule an interview with the designer, please contact Minerva Arboleya, ASI Marketing Group, at (305)632.2512 or marboleya@arboleyasulichin.com.

Details Make A Difference

I had a lovely lunch by the pool yesterday with my good friend consultant Alice Hendry. I have always admired her weddings. They take perfection to a new level and I finally figured out why.
Details. That is the answer in one word.
There are people that can see the big picture and those that focus on the minutiae. Alice is that rare character that can see both.
We were discussing a wedding from this spring that I am using for an upcoming article. What I needed was some idea of how she had advanced the theme the bride had settled on. WOW, was I blown away. It was like peeling an onion. Each layer built on the next, being careful never to stray from the original touchstone of the theme.
Planning a wedding that is all white can be a nightmare. It is easy to end up with a ‘blizzard’ where all the details disapear. Not this one. It was a richly textured symphony with each layer blending to perfection.
Alice used the period of La Belle Epoque as her touchstone. Everything, and I do mean everything touched back to the traditional formality of that bygone era. Details like the tradional style of escort card, the damask linens, the couture calligraphy and the traditional music all came together seamlessly. Every detail down to timing the dinner so the guest were seated at dusk was planned, not allow to just happen.
This is not an easy accomplishment. It takes a pro to keep that many details in focus. It takes someone that is completely dedicated to your vision. If you are trying to achieve the kind of outcome that leaves your guests in awe ( in the good way), hire a pro to keep you focused. It will just make your life so much easier.

Outdoor Weddings

It’s summertime and the air is filled with the sweet scent of flowers and love. Weddings al fresco are all the rage. What could be more beautiful than taking your vows in a flower filled garden; the sun gently settling behind the mountains in the distance bathing the world in reds, pinks and oranges? Not much, until you factor in the heat, humidity and bugs.

Every year there are brides that fall into the trap of thinking only of the beauty of the location and forget the reality of outdoor weddings. If you are planning an outdoor wedding without the help of a wedding planner, let me offer some lifesaving tips. And I mean things beside the obvious one about an alternate plan for rain. You already have that don’t you?

Today I want to talk about comfort, yours, your families, your guests and your vendors.

First, the happy couple.

Brides please consider how many layers of fabric you will be under. Each layer of fabric in your skirt or lingerie adds heat. Think less not more. Shoes must be accounted for too. Those stilettos you found that are oh so sexy are going to sink right into that lovely lawn, save them for the honeymoon. If you are wearing your hair down for your ceremony, consider a way to get it off you neck later. The last outdoor wedding I worked, the bride finally resorted to a plain rubber band ponytail by mid reception. Trust me, it did not enhance her look. Plan your up do in advance.

Guys, that tux may be the stylish statement you want to make but please reconsider. A full tux is hot inside in the winter, why would you insist on making yourself and your boys miserable on the happiest day of your life. An outdoor location lends a certain air of informality so go with it. Wear a summer weight suit or blazer and khakis. Even if you are planning your ceremony for early evening when (hopefully) it has begun to cool, your pictures will be in late afternoon at the hottest part of the day. That means at least an hour posing in the blazing sun trying to look fresh and relaxed, not limp and sweaty.

For your family and guests.

A good host concerns themselves with the comfort of their guests. Please let you guests know that this will be an outdoor event so that they may dress appropriately. Offer cold beverages such as bottled water or lemonade as guest arrive. Your guests will appreciate something cold as they sit in the garden awaiting your grand entrance.

Try to arrange your site so your guests are not starring directly into the sun as they watch you make your vows. If it is the only way to orient the site consider passing out cheap sunglasses for a fun and funky touch. What a fun shot that would be; everyone from Granny to your three-year-old niece in matching Ray-ban knock-offs.

Speaking of Granny, provide your older guest some shade or other relief from the heat. It is just the smart thing to do.

Creepy crawlies.

Check to see if your site sprays for insects prior to an event. If they don’t, see if you can hire it done. Have plenty of insect repellant on hand for your guests. You can stock it in the bathroom baskets along with some sunscreen for those that forgot.

If your cake will be outside protect it beautifully under a festive mosquito net. Bugs love sugar, guests don’t want to eat bugs, and caterers don’t want to have to pick them off.

The staff that makes it all happen.

As you plan your al fresco soiree tell every vendor you hire that it is outside. They can suggest subtle changes that will make the day go smoother. Your florist may suggest alternate flowers that give a similar look but hold up to the heat better. Your caterer may need a tent to prep in and you musicians may require shade for the sake of their instruments. Listen to your vendors; they have been there, done that, got the sunburn. Your hair and makeup person needs to adjust for the heat and humidity. Tell everyone even if you think it will not matter.

I know that this all sounds rather doom and gloomy and I don’t mean to dissuade you from having your outdoor wedding; I just want you to be prepared so you have the best day possible and the wedding of your dreams