Observations from a Wedding

Huge apologies for not posting for the last few days; I was helping my friend Vicki of Branching Out ~An Event Florist with the most amazing wedding. Here are a couple of observations from the back side of pulling off an event this large.

1. I do not care who you are or what your budget, you can not anticipate what mom nature will have in store for you. As you sit there in January planning your event you should know what flowers and foods will be in season for your August date on a normal basis. What you do not know is that mom nature has a 25 day string of temperatures over 95, with 11 of those over 100 in the works. You can not foresee that that your lovely wedding will fall smack dab in the middle of a drought of near monumental proportions just as the temperature records start dropping like flies. Sometimes what sounded great in January is darn near impossible in reality. So if your caterer tells you that the fresh mint for your Mojito’s looks a lot less than perfect because the crop dried out or the flowers that should have looked perfect for several days are wilted half way through the day realize that if there had been anything they could have done differently, they would have bent over backwards to do it. As a bride, you have to be flexible and understand that the professionals you are working with are as much at the mercy of the weather as you are.

2. As you plan, schedule in some free time for your guests. This weekend there were events scheduled non-stop. Luncheon on Friday followed by the rehearsal, Greek dance lessons and then the rehearsal dinner. On Saturday another luncheon, the wedding and reception and a 9:00AM brunch on Sunday. We went to breakdown the reception at the appointed time of 12:30 Saturday night fully expecting the party to still be in full swing since this was a very large, very partying type crowd. But no, not only were we able to walk right in and start breakdown, it seems that the event had actually wound down fifteen minutes earlier than expected. By the time midnight on Saturday rolled around everyone was so worn out that they were all ready to turn into pumpkins. I wasn’t there but I bet there were quite a few no shows at that 9 AM brunch. Any hostess wants to make sure that her guests are entertained, but sometimes a nap is entertainment enough.

The Reality of Reality TV

I know you watch them; those shows like “Who’s Wedding Is It Anyway”. You do know that those are only real in the loosest sense of the word don’t you? I mean they are real brides and real vendors but that pretty much is the end of it.

Let me tell you about what goes on behind the camera. In the real world that planner is on the phone with her favorite wedding pros the minute she/he got the call from the TV show. So everybody knows just how important this wedding is to their reputation and marketing. No one wants to be on National TV putting anything but their best foot forward.

Take for instance the florist. If you ask for a mock up of your centerpiece or bouquet you might very well either meet with resistance or be told the specific date they can do it. Here’s why: it will only take a few of each flower you are using to make the arrangement but the florist still has to order the entire box or bunch multiplied by the number of flower types used; very few can be ordered as a single stem. The florist now either has a huge investment or they will try to set it up on a date when they already have the same types of flowers ordered for another event. The smaller the florist the harder this is. If on the other hand that same florist knows that a camera crew is going to be showing up for the trial what do you thing they are going to do? I’ll tell you what they do, they beg, borrow and steal what ever is needed to make sure that those arrangements are gorgeous at whatever time or date the planner wants to see them. They will call in every favor from ever supplier they have to make it perfect. Heck I have even know a couple to paint the workroom.

The same goes for caterers, they hate tastings. It isn’t because they don’t think there food is great; it is because it costs them a fortune. In order to get the kind of prices and quality they need they have to order in bulk. Now what are they going to do with the other 2.5 pounds of extra large shrimp they had to thaw out to get the 6 they put on your plate? If the camera crew is there they are going to feed them and most definitely the producer. Why do you think the caterer always gets so much air time??

It is not that the wedding professionals you are interviewing are treating you badly, they are treating you normally. It is just that you don’t have a camera crew in tow. Those are the ones that are getting spoiled.

They may call them reality TV but you need to take them with a real big grain of salt.

The Sweetest Inspiration

I have talked before about creating a storyboard to help you design your wedding. Well, no one does it better than Abby Jean over at Style Me Pretty.

Abby calls them inspiration boards and does them on her computer. This week she is showcasing some of the best of the best entries in an Inspiration Board Contest among her readers.

Wow! What an embarrassment of riches. I could spend all day just ooohing and ahhhing over the beautiful ideas. All perfectly pulled together by Abby’s deft touch.

She has been generous enough to post a list of how-to hints and tips on how to put your own inspiration board together.

Thanks Abby, you always inspire me.

Fun with Chair Ties

How is that for different. The table cloth is orange Bengaline and the chair is dressed and bound in moss and persimmon lamour.

I just thought this was as clever as could be. What are you going to do to dress up those little folding chairs that so many people are using? Why give them a tie, of course. That always adds a well dressed edge.

All images: David Wright
All Linen and design: BBJ Linen

I’ll post the gorgeous cake table tomorrow.


I loved this overlay. It is called Monte Carlo and the colors are too die for. MaryMac paired it with a black under base and chair color and then accented her creation with Cerise Lamor napkins and chair tie. You have got to love the creativity of the staff at BBJ.


The centerpiece is from Ed Vance over at the local Flower Express. What a hidden treasure he is. Whoops! I guess he’s not so hidden any more.

https://weddingdish.thinklikeabride.com/2007/07/88/

Decor Bonanza!!

I had the best time today. I went over to the BBJ Linens showroom to see some of their new offerings. It seems that once a year the company runs a friendly little in house competition to see who can design the loveliest tables. WOW with their selection of gorgeous linens how can you go wrong.

In the true tradition of southern hospitality the showroom here in Nashville threw open their doors, stocked the bar and loaded down the buffet with tasty morsels. The guest list included the who’s who in the local event industry. Always fun to see old friends and meet new ones.

BBJ Linens was started 25 years ago by three women upset by the terrible selection of linens available. Working from home they began to create their own linen using beautiful fabrics. Today BBJ has 15 showrooms spread across the country and a huge team of fine professionals to help you plan your décor needs.

Their website is not only some of the prettiest eyecandy around but also has a great interactive tool to help with making decisions. For more personal service just call 1-800-405-6944 and they will hook you up with your nearest showroom. Then one of their reps like MaryMac here in Nashville will talk you through the process; send you swatches or even a whole table cloth until you are happy with your choices. In some cases, you can even hire their production crew to come and tie all of those beautiful but tedious chair ties.

Dear friend David Wright took a ton of pictures for me today. So many wonderful shots in fact that I’m going to break them up into a couple of posts with full details on fabrics. Keep reading.

How to Get Better Wedding Photos

I have to admit that I am maybe the most photophobic person in the world. I hate pictures of me, I hate having them taken and I hate when they show up in the press.

When you consider how many wonderful professional photographers I have as close personal friends you would think that I would have gotten over this by now. NO, not a chance.

I can get away with hiding from the camera most of the time but if you are a bride to be you don’t have that luxury. What is a girl to do?

Take a look at the blog Lara has put together for A Softer Image Photography. There are some great posts on how to pose and how to be more comfortable in front of the camera. The single best tip is to show your photographer a picture of yourself that you do like. That and relax.

Image courtesy of A Softer Image.

Just Because It Sounds Offbeat…

Doesn’t always mean it is. I ran across this wedding in a cemetery. How beautiful. Before you jump to conclusions and start thinking Goth and vampire and black capes, take another look. Yes it is quirky but beautiful and romantic.

The bride and groom are history buffs and the cemetery is adjacent to the church where they worship. Harkening back to the early days of this country when there were few public parks cemeteries were used as picnic grounds.

Check out the rest of the images at David’s blog. I really like the one of the piano player.

I just love to run across the unexpected.

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